So it has been way too long since I have blogged here. Since my last blog the situations have changed. Things are still going pretty well with my hubby. I have since released my submissive girl, we together came to the conclusion that her preference for women, and my preference is men would affect our relationship negatively. We have come to be friends.
Now, during the process of finding a submissive to play with I too found a boyfriend, killing two birds with one stone. Him and I met unexpectedly through a not so reliable BDSM website. We started talking and realized that we had a lot if not all our fetishes in common. We had decided to meet and see how things would go. It was like a first date but D/s we both had butterflies, and were excited. He was getting kicked out of his moms place, because she needed the room for her dad to move in so she could take care of him. So I offered for him to crash at my house while he looked for a new job. He slept on the floor by the side of my bed, Which I loved. So it has been way too long since I have blogged here. Since my last blog the situations have changed. Things are still going pretty well with my hubby. I have since released my submissive girl, we together came to the conclusion that her preference for women, and my preference is men would affect our relationship negatively. We have come to be friends.
Now, during the process of finding a submissive to play with I too found a boyfriend, killing two birds with one stone. Him and I met unexpectedly through a not so reliable BDSM website. We started talking and realized that we had a lot if not all our fetishes in common. We had decided to meet and see how things would go. It was like a first date but D/s we both had butterflies, and were excited. He was getting kicked out of his moms place, because she needed the room for her dad to move in so she could take care of him. So I offered for him to crash at my house while he looked for a new job. He slept on the floor by the side of my bed, Which I loved.
There was a lot of tension in the house as I had a submissive girl already living with us. She is no longer in the house, because of a difference of requirements of a D/s household and relationship. We had a lot of issues with jealousy, time requirements, attention lacking, and what not. A lot of Drama. However things were civil between her and the family, we tried to salvage a friendship however the age difference, and sex similarity put stress on it.
He has been living with us for about 4 months. He has not started his training yet, because of all the drama as well as his work is m-f sometimes sat 6am till 6 pm. so Our time is very limited. We are getting ready to start his training either this weekend or next. I am very much looking forward to it.
A question: how are you relating to new boyfriend prior to his training? Does he have equal status with you and your hubby? How will you relate to someone who is gone most of the time (at his job)? Did the situation with your previous relationship (the drama) limit your poly relationship with him?
ReplyDeleteWell Basically prior to his formal training, he joined our household as a submissive. He is my submissive but knows his place as my secondary lover. (For example, even before training he always serves himself food (for dinner) prior to myself, and then my hubby). He does not have equal status with hubby necessarily. Hubby gets priority, however as a lover he is just as important. Well when hubby is gone frequently with his job, nothing changes except he is my temporary primary. (however phone calls from primary are priority). Yes the previous situation limited my poly relationship with both men severely.
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