I really wanted to share this as I just watched it, It shows a couple real life different poly families.
Wednesday, March 27, 2013
Polyamoury
So more vanilla family is on its way on Friday, I am excited and scared at the same time. My vanilla best friend is coming into town and we finally get to spend some time together, and she finally gets to see the real me. I have come out to her about the situation that I am in. I have come out to her about BDSM, Poly, and Bi. She is the only vanilla person that knows about it all. So it will be an adventure.
A week after she leaves my Dad is coming in to town for my 30th birthday week, and I am ecstatic. I cannot believe my Dad is coming down finally to see us, however I am petrified that he is going to find out, and then how do I calmly explain it to him. That I am basically a hedonist? I wish that there were more poly people following this so I can get their opinions on it.
We are also as a family debating and talking about Collaring and Poly Wedding stuff. We really need to get the collaring done, as I am seeking an actual slave. I cannot have two boys under consideration at the same time. The big thing that is holding us up is that I am making his formal collar.
There are some amazing poly stories out there!
A week after she leaves my Dad is coming in to town for my 30th birthday week, and I am ecstatic. I cannot believe my Dad is coming down finally to see us, however I am petrified that he is going to find out, and then how do I calmly explain it to him. That I am basically a hedonist? I wish that there were more poly people following this so I can get their opinions on it.
We are also as a family debating and talking about Collaring and Poly Wedding stuff. We really need to get the collaring done, as I am seeking an actual slave. I cannot have two boys under consideration at the same time. The big thing that is holding us up is that I am making his formal collar.
There are some amazing poly stories out there!
That is the flag for poly pride
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Polyamory and Vanilla Family
So I know it has been a while since I have blogged however I feel it is necessary to blog now.
The three of us A, M, and N have been in a PolyFamily for almost 2 years now... WOW... I cannot believe it has been that long.
Anyway, back on point, N's brothers are coming to visit and we are having to "vanilla-ize" our house, as they do not know I am Married to M. Taking down photos and stuff that links myself to M in a Married way. We had to tell his brothers that M and I are brother and sister. At least until he retires from his current job, after that N has decided to "come out" to his family. Especially as they are a lot closer geographically to us than M's family or Mine.
One thing that is most frustrating is that N and I do a lot if not most of the cleaning in the house. So here we are cleaning and getting ready for guests, and when I ask M to help he says "maybe". I had to remind him that OUR families will be coming later in the year and N will be helping out to clean then and that he needs to make time to help clean. Ok enough bitching.
It is really hard as M's and N's families both know about me but the families think that I am only in a relationship with one of them and the other is either my brother or my roommate. I want to come out to my family but I know that it would be looked down upon. I am not really sure what to do...
Anyone else going through same or similar things? comments?
The three of us A, M, and N have been in a PolyFamily for almost 2 years now... WOW... I cannot believe it has been that long.
Anyway, back on point, N's brothers are coming to visit and we are having to "vanilla-ize" our house, as they do not know I am Married to M. Taking down photos and stuff that links myself to M in a Married way. We had to tell his brothers that M and I are brother and sister. At least until he retires from his current job, after that N has decided to "come out" to his family. Especially as they are a lot closer geographically to us than M's family or Mine.
One thing that is most frustrating is that N and I do a lot if not most of the cleaning in the house. So here we are cleaning and getting ready for guests, and when I ask M to help he says "maybe". I had to remind him that OUR families will be coming later in the year and N will be helping out to clean then and that he needs to make time to help clean. Ok enough bitching.
It is really hard as M's and N's families both know about me but the families think that I am only in a relationship with one of them and the other is either my brother or my roommate. I want to come out to my family but I know that it would be looked down upon. I am not really sure what to do...
Anyone else going through same or similar things? comments?
Monday, December 26, 2011
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Fun news and difficult trials
Well My boy proposed to me on our vacation this last September in North Carolina on the OBX. He did it at sunrise with my husband there, on the beach. It was beautiful! He had asked my husbands permission like my husband asked my father. Not that I am viewing myself as owned by these men which is the historical significance to the permission asking, but that I show it as a sign of respect and that they honor the approval of the one that came before them. He proposed with a peridot (faux) toe ring. I love it, however it wasn't the best quality. He wanted to get a much better one but he didn't have the money before vacation.
other than the good news we have been having a problem my boy injured himself at work and was then the first to be laid off. Well because his back is on fire all the time, we have not had a chance to truly have play sessions. I have now seen the in person effect of non-play on a true submissive. He has become bratty and bitchy. Well I keep him in line mostly, but he has a bit of trouble keeping in line when there is not a regular play time whether beating or sessioning or training. But some of those are almost impossible to do when your submissive is not in a physical condition to do much. Hopefully we can get him to a doctor soon, as he has no insurance. Well hopefully he will be back to his normal and fully submissive self soon.
We finally got a new house it is on 3 acres, and in the back is a huge barn which is three times the size of the local play space. It is going to take a lot of money and time to fix it but we have gotten a lot of volunteers to help out with making it an operational space. suspension, wax, crosses, all kinds.
Well on the front of poly, hubby and I are very happy with our third. We love him, and really enjoy having him as a part of the family. I am truly blessed! Oh and btw, I am going to be starting my Masters in Psychology and then my PhD in the same, I am wanting to be a poly, kink, family, and PTSD counselor, so wish me luck!
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Do I have a sign on my forehead?
Lately I have had a very weird couple of months, a lot of people have come back into my life randomly. I think this is odd because of the fact that I am finally and entirely happy. Three ex boyfriends, 3 ex submissives (one formerly collared) and 4 former lovers. WTFH? Is all I can say.... most have come back begging to be in my life. Others are just trying to find that lost connection. I don't get it. They either broke my heart or stopped talking to me, now they want me back? They dated, or played with someone else, realized what they were missing out on and came slithering back.
It feels to me that the world knows I am happy and wants to do whatever it can to fuck it up. It has happened in the past, but not like this.
One of the ex bfs and I started talking and all was good, he knew about the current bf from first notice. Then all of the sudden he kept dwelling on the "omg she will never be a part of my life again" thing and my having a bf. He was one of the ones that just felt he didn't have time for me anymore, and slowly piddled out of my life. I am not going to wait around for you to get your balls back and have time for me again.
It feels to me that the world knows I am happy and wants to do whatever it can to fuck it up. It has happened in the past, but not like this.
One of the ex bfs and I started talking and all was good, he knew about the current bf from first notice. Then all of the sudden he kept dwelling on the "omg she will never be a part of my life again" thing and my having a bf. He was one of the ones that just felt he didn't have time for me anymore, and slowly piddled out of my life. I am not going to wait around for you to get your balls back and have time for me again.
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Troubles with the Past
So as you my readers know, the female submissive did not work out. Yet is still creating issues in my life. Her and my husband are still good friends. I know that her supposed excuse for never talking to me again is that she cuts all ties with former Dominants. However her immaturity on the way she went about it was wrong. She claimed that she couldn't be friends with anyone that lied to her, yet some of her friends have lied to her in the past, and worse. And yet she still talks to them and trusts them in times of conflict. So if I would have been meaner, or more abusive she might still be talking to me. It saddens me that even though things didn't work out, I treated her with all the respect in the world, and yet she cannot even acknowledge me at a community event we are both at.
Also I have had several blasts from my past resurface. My ex-boyfriend (most recent) and I decided to become civil, as our break up was bullshit. I knew he was not poly from the very start and said "I understand if you find someone else, all you need to do is just let me know". He decided to cheat on me and string me along then break up with me once I was across the country. I have missed him as a friend and was bitter about it because he is beloved by all my close friends back home.
Two of my other exs both want me back but are upset at the fact that I have a boyfriend that is more reliable, and has a better relationship with me. I don't mind staying friends but the current bf should not be all we talk about. So one of them I stopped talking to because he was pissing me off, by solely talking about my current.
So needless to say the past is haunting me and I wish I could just be a bitch about it all to people but my biggest flaw is I tend to be too nice, to damned caring about everyone.
Also I have had several blasts from my past resurface. My ex-boyfriend (most recent) and I decided to become civil, as our break up was bullshit. I knew he was not poly from the very start and said "I understand if you find someone else, all you need to do is just let me know". He decided to cheat on me and string me along then break up with me once I was across the country. I have missed him as a friend and was bitter about it because he is beloved by all my close friends back home.
Two of my other exs both want me back but are upset at the fact that I have a boyfriend that is more reliable, and has a better relationship with me. I don't mind staying friends but the current bf should not be all we talk about. So one of them I stopped talking to because he was pissing me off, by solely talking about my current.
So needless to say the past is haunting me and I wish I could just be a bitch about it all to people but my biggest flaw is I tend to be too nice, to damned caring about everyone.
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